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Kimmo Huosionmaa
Some personality disorders are the thing, what is learned part of the personality. The reason of those so-called learned personal disorders are an abusive feedback from those persons social relationship. If everybody just tells to the person, how bad person he or she is, this feedback is influential in the rest of that person's life. Same thing happens if the person will never hear anything negative in their life, and of course, that will raise their self-esteem in the stratosphere, but that might cause very negative thing in that person's personality.
If everything, what some person does is accepted, that will cause in this person's personality one very bad thing. This person can't show any self-criticism in their behavior. And if some persons don't have any self-critics he or she will become the very stressful person. When we are talking about narcissism, it's manifestation is that person want's to satisfy his or her boss in every situation. That person will show social skills by asking his or her boss as godparents for children.
What makes that behavior very stressful, is that person always treats other people like they are air to this kind of person. Only the bosses satisfactions means something to that kind of person, and other people's mission is just somewhere else, where this particular person is. In this part of this issue must we notice that there is one very important thing, what the people must realize when they are talking about social skills. That thing is the person must not have any kind of social skills being social.
I mean the persons who will go to children parties with alcohol or who can't even ask is smoking allowed in some homes. Also, there are many people who are very social, if they have superiority position to other people. if they are sitting on some bosses seat, they can talk all the day, how "cool" they are. But they are unable to equal competitions between other people. Those people are talking like some tape recorders if they are above other persons in social rank. They always forget that other people are their henchmen.
And that will cause some uncomfortable situations in the workplace when this kind of person asks his or her henchmen to godparents for their children, so they are opposite people than that stressful personality, what is mentioned before in this text. There is one particular part of the people, who sometimes forget their position, and that is the teacher. Those people sometimes forget that they are leaders of their classes and the students must do what they will say. Same thing happens sometimes with military leaders, who give some orders without thinking that his henchmen do what he says, and that might cause very terrible situations.
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