Narcissists and living in the community

Kimmo Huosionmaa

The world "narcissism" will come from the Narcissus, the man who fell love in his mirror image. The narcissists lives in the dream world, where they might believe, that they are some kind of medical doctors or something like that. Many narcissists makes the counterfeits of the graduation papers, or they might tell the people, that their wife or husband is dead or mentally ill, even they are not been in married because those people want to manipulate other persons.


And the stories about the mentally ill spouse will make those people look like very sympathetic. This will help them to slip into the target person social network. Those people don't realize that they do nothing wrong if they slap their wife or children if the catering has made wrong way, and the spoon is the wrong side of the saucer.

The making the counterfeit of graduation papers is not very wise. Those papers involve certificates and their authenticity might be checked from the government. So the papers itself means nothing, and the making the unauthorized copies of other person's graduation papers is illegal. Some of the people think, that they can give evictions to other people by sending the counterfeits of the superintendent's companies, and the reason why some people will become suspicious of some letters, is that they will come only when the person's lawyer or owner of the department is somewhere abroad.

In the newspapers is sometimes the stories about narcissism, the very bad mental disorder. The most visible symptom of that mental disorder is the person is unable to see self as the normal person. This kind of person believes that other persons are below this person. And the narcissist believes that everything, what is done by this person is right. If you have narcissist as the neighbor, this person might keep very noisy parties, but when somebody else keeps parties or even cross water in the wrong time, this neighbor will call the superintendent, that the neighbor was keeping noise.


The other thing what makes the investigators suspect the fake is that there will be some letter from the estate agent in the post box. This kind of methodology is the very nice thing to make people sell their departments at the low price. This kind of things are very serious things, and they will cause the criminal investigation. When we are talking about the usual reason for eviction or problems with paying the rents, the most effective reason for denying person's use of bank accounts is mental disorders.

In the mental institute will the personnel take the symptoms of the patient, and the first thing what should make the investigators suspicious about the information, what the witnesses said during the investigation. That process will end in the courtroom, where the judge makes the decision if the person needs to be patronized because of the psychical conditions is there will be only the symptoms what are in some medical book.


Or there will be only those symptoms, what the person puts the reports. There are many symptoms of the mental disorders, what is not very visible. And if the person will have all the symptoms, what are found in some home doctor's book, they might not look like very reliable. When we are saying, that some people "are cold feelings", we must also see how it will accidents to another people. This is the problem when the person will come to tell the lies in the courtroom. In the real world, the symptoms might be very different than normal people believes.


And even if some person has narcissistic personality, there must be found some criminal activity, if this person will be closed to the mental institute. The criminal activity like domestic violence is the evidence of the person's need for psychiatric care. Another way is that the criminal doesn't understand when this person makes a crime. In some cases where graduation papers have been counterfeited, the person who uses those papers doesn't feel that any crimes have been made. This is the real symptom of the narcissistic personality disorder. The narcissist doesn't understand that the action what that person made is wrong.

Thinking about social life and skills of the people

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Kimmo Huosionmaa

Some personality disorders are the thing, what is learned part of the personality. The reason of those so-called learned personal disorders are an abusive feedback from those persons social relationship. If everybody just tells to the person, how bad person he or she is, this feedback is influential in the rest of that person's life. Same thing happens if the person will never hear anything negative in their life, and of course, that will raise their self-esteem in the stratosphere, but that might cause very negative thing in that person's personality.


If everything, what some person does is accepted, that will cause in this person's personality one very bad thing. This person can't show any self-criticism in their behavior. And if some persons don't have any self-critics he or she will become the very stressful person. When we are talking about narcissism, it's manifestation is that person want's to satisfy his or her boss in every situation. That person will show social skills by asking his or her boss as godparents for children.


What makes that behavior very stressful, is that person always treats other people like they are air to this kind of person. Only the bosses satisfactions means something to that kind of person, and other people's mission is just somewhere else,  where this particular person is. In this part of this issue must we notice that there is one very important thing, what the people must realize when they are talking about social skills. That thing is the person must not have any kind of social skills being social.


I mean the persons who will go to children parties with alcohol or who can't even ask is smoking allowed in some homes. Also, there are many people who are very social, if they have superiority position to other people. if they are sitting on some bosses seat, they can talk all the day, how "cool" they are. But they are unable to equal competitions between other people. Those people are talking like some tape recorders if they are above other persons in social rank. They always forget that other people are their henchmen.


And that will cause some uncomfortable situations in the workplace when this kind of person asks his or her henchmen to godparents for their children, so they are opposite people than that stressful personality, what is mentioned before in this text. There is one particular part of the people, who sometimes forget their position, and that is the teacher. Those people sometimes forget that they are leaders of their classes and the students must do what they will say. Same thing happens sometimes with military leaders, who give some orders without thinking that his henchmen do what he says, and that might cause very terrible situations.