Facebook and beyond

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Kimmo Huosionmaa

Social media advancing all the time. This is the truth and even the Facebook was the first, other would follow that channel, or how we will call the social media services. When we are talking about the way youngsters are not familiar with Facebook anymore, is that service would not give them any privacy to talk together. There could be the parents and their friends with secret profiles, to stalk those youngsters. And because the messages that are written in that service doesn't delete automatically, there would be problems with information security.


The reason why people afraid social media, is that is shows, what kind of person really is. If there would be some very intelligent person, who has many personal ideas, would that cause little bit surprising, that person ever writes a single world. When the person has many ideas and personal thoughts, that could be manifested by own writings and ideas also on the Internet.



When we are talking about Snapchat, this application gives little bit more privacy than the Facebook, what gives the writings on the wall to everybody. And when we are looking about Snapchat, that is the so-called stripped version of Facebook. This makes the stealing those messages more difficult because they will go to another person, not to some group.


But the primary reason for leaving the Facebook is that service has become boring. The original idea of this service was to make the channel, where people can publish anything, what they wanted, but then that area became the place for commercial marketing. And also many elder people began to use that media because this is the very good forum for meeting together. This is the very good thing, but this makes media so tolerated, that the use of this thing is not ”cool” anymore.


Other social media products have more quality to notice user's personal needs. And this is the thing, what makes them better for some things than Facebook. But as we might see, there are still users for that channel, and when we are talking about what kind of social media people uses, we must say that there would be the world, where people use many social media applications same time. People communicate with workplace by using Facebook, and with friends, they might use Instagram, and of course, Twitter is the very good choice for businessmen, who needs only links, and behind that are the reports, what those persons need.


When we are talking about the financial support for those social media applications, we must say that the financial marketing would use social media to make the profile of us. They would send targeting sales for the users, and also they can give to the government information, what kind of media is the example the good scientist or military personnel looks. This information might be used for military personnel recruiting process, or hunting the serial killers. If somebody looks the same movies and uses similar terms as the serial killer that would seem the little bit strange.


The specialists would create the profiles of the media-usage of good military man by using the information, what is collected from well known military men. Also, the prisoners can be used to collect the information of media-usage of criminals. And that data can be compiled with other people media-usage. This might give very good view to the person's mind. If somebody makes same things in social- or other media with the person who sits in the prison, this would mean that those two persons would make same things also in the real life. This would not make anybody guilty, but this will make the list of suspected criminals shorter. And it would help authorities targeting their actions to those persons.

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Why somebody hates Christmas?

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Kimmo Huosionmaa

Do you know that most of the hate is a learned part of the human life? When human will face simultaneous disappointing cause the hate against some things, other people normally love those things, but this particular person starts to hate those things. Normally people love holidays and parties, but in some situations, some people will begin to hate those things.


The question what connects to that thing is that some persons are work-addicts. They are persons, who have got positive feedback only from their working life, and that thing makes those "super bosses" who never be at holidays. Those persons are living only for their workplaces because they ever get positive feedback from their private life.


This is a psychological-philosophical writing, and all connections with real characters are fictional. So I try to be not hurt anybody with this writing.  Somebody hates Christmas songs, and that might cause dangerous situations in the real life? The hate against those sings grows, when some people feel Christmas as some kind of uncomfortable thing, they begin to hate that celebration.


Do you know, that there are a people in the world, who hate parties? Those people are some kind of abuse when they are been in parties, and after that those people will begin to hate the things that are funny for other persons. If some particular person meets the only abusive behavior in those parties, he or she lost able to like them.


The abusive and trashing behavior against some member of the society is a very good way to start the process, what might cost some lives in the future. But let's go back to the beginning of the text. Why can that Christmas music cause terrible unfold in some shopping center? The reason for that very aggressive reaction is PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). If very young people face aggression in the Christmas, the event will store in his mind.


After that, there will be things, what keeps that person out of troubles. But when that thing removes from the person's life, might happen the thing, what we don't want to face. That reason for life and what was filled that person's life might be husband or wife who dies and the sadness and repressed feelings might come to the surface of that person.

Thinking about social life and skills of the people

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Kimmo Huosionmaa

Some personality disorders are the thing, what is learned part of the personality. The reason of those so-called learned personal disorders are an abusive feedback from those persons social relationship. If everybody just tells to the person, how bad person he or she is, this feedback is influential in the rest of that person's life. Same thing happens if the person will never hear anything negative in their life, and of course, that will raise their self-esteem in the stratosphere, but that might cause very negative thing in that person's personality.


If everything, what some person does is accepted, that will cause in this person's personality one very bad thing. This person can't show any self-criticism in their behavior. And if some persons don't have any self-critics he or she will become the very stressful person. When we are talking about narcissism, it's manifestation is that person want's to satisfy his or her boss in every situation. That person will show social skills by asking his or her boss as godparents for children.


What makes that behavior very stressful, is that person always treats other people like they are air to this kind of person. Only the bosses satisfactions means something to that kind of person, and other people's mission is just somewhere else,  where this particular person is. In this part of this issue must we notice that there is one very important thing, what the people must realize when they are talking about social skills. That thing is the person must not have any kind of social skills being social.


I mean the persons who will go to children parties with alcohol or who can't even ask is smoking allowed in some homes. Also, there are many people who are very social, if they have superiority position to other people. if they are sitting on some bosses seat, they can talk all the day, how "cool" they are. But they are unable to equal competitions between other people. Those people are talking like some tape recorders if they are above other persons in social rank. They always forget that other people are their henchmen.


And that will cause some uncomfortable situations in the workplace when this kind of person asks his or her henchmen to godparents for their children, so they are opposite people than that stressful personality, what is mentioned before in this text. There is one particular part of the people, who sometimes forget their position, and that is the teacher. Those people sometimes forget that they are leaders of their classes and the students must do what they will say. Same thing happens sometimes with military leaders, who give some orders without thinking that his henchmen do what he says, and that might cause very terrible situations.

Writing about harassment in social life

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Kimmo Huosionmaa

The social position of the people is very easy to see. Many people have terrible behaviors like give orders to another person all time. That kind of behavior is a very common thing for the people, who are grown in societies, where their parents have some kind of position, where they can give orders to another person. But there is one type of person, who might be interesting in the eye of an investigator. Those persons are very well known people because they make everybody feel uncomfortable.


When somebody comes to work, he or she might know if that person begins to yell, because that tiresome people have a mark that he or she begins to scream to another person. That means that this person has a support in the community because he or she uses a mark when he or she starts that action. This next episode is mentioned in some data security handbook, and I write it as I remember that story, because I read that book about 20 years ago.  So if something goes wrong, please try to understand.


We all know a story of the boss, who has slips for every mental situation, and there is one slip, what other persons in workplace hate very much. It is a slip, what that person uses when he or she starts to yell to other members of society. In some societies, there is a way how to haze some people. That color might be marked to all team, to begin to harass some member of the society. If we are looking for newspapers or some other public media, we might see that in some writings are marks that the reporter will give some kind of orders, how to haze other people. This might be imagined, but somehow the same kind of slips went in the neck of that club members and one person, who didn’t have slips found his car, with its tires empty. So was there a connection or not, that is the question.


And somebody has been talked, that pink slips in some societies is a mark to begin haze with sexual behaviors or something like that. Why I’m writing about this? After some news begins some people start to wear pink slips, and those persons were part of the same golf club, and in workplaces began some kind of intimation about some person’s sexual behavior. After that one member of the team got a telephone call, where he or she got nice advice to change a workplace immediately. And there was mentioned some things, what were so-called "personal information". That was a mark, that those people had a chance to get some confidential files in their hands, and that was not very nice to heard.


That text was mentioned that person, who was recognized as this person was someway hated. I have heard some rumors that in some Ice-hockey or basketball league players support team works some "media agents", whose mission is to annoy players. Those people write very poignantly texts to social media about those players, who will not satisfy them.  And all players have mentioned as code names and when somebody is mentioned to be hated, that means, that this particular person will get lots of bad feedback from social media. I don't know if this is the only rumor.


Actually in that competition was used a phrase, that they don’t find jobs for that person, so why he or she is sitting there? The connection between those writings and slips seems to be very clear. Those slips are maybe marked for that this particular person has paid ransoms, that he or she won’t get harassed in the workplace.

What is the situation when you should think that you an adult?

Kimmo Huosionmaa

What is the situation when you should think that you an adult? That is a question, what I sometimes think. The question of when people are old is very old. There is no straight answer to those things, but when you don't anymore scream by hate when your friends leave you outside from restaurant-evening shows that you have grown as an adult person.


Adult persons know, that there is always find a man or woman who doesn't like them.  And they don't afraid their bosses if somebody calls them in the stand. They know that if the boss believes their customer's worlds that might cause separation from that company, but that will not happen every time when the customer asks the boss to support them. And sometimes those bosses lies about separations. They don't always kick people off the company, even if the customer wants them to do that.


What means to be the adult is ever mentioned in any texts, what are published in the media. Being adult in some professions like computing means that we don't hack other systems, and I remember, when I was a young man. I thought that all computer work is some kind of hacking and the world of the Internet is some kind of "Wargames"-movie.


But today I don't think that. When people are young they live very hectic life. All things what they want should happen here right now. They can't wait for anything because they ever must wait. Young people are so sensitive because all things happen for the first time, and that's why they will act like they act. Adult people learn to wait, and they know that the buss will come sooner or later, without making phone calls to the company.


Those phone calls will make a very strong impression to that person's fellows, but that doesn't bring the bus to the stand any faster if the man is calling phone calls to the company.  Patience is a feature, what older people have, and that's why army sniper men who have success are the little bit older than other soldiers. They have the patience to wait for important targets like enemy's officers to their scope.


That kind of persons was used in the Vietnam War as a "Phoenix"- program's operators to eliminate well known Vietcong leaders. That's why elder people are more dangerous than young. They have greater experience of life than young people, and that's why they will make compliments until they have an effect on that company and the target of compliments.


That eliminates change, that this particular person starts some revenge campaigns against that person. People must realize, that if they can't prove their worlds, will that person stand on his or her site. And that might make troubles to complementarian. Also when the person makes a decision to make compliments, he must realize, that the target of that action must not be informed before the reclamation is made. That is because those people might get mad about that compliment.