Working life is not always easy.

Kimmo Huosionmaa

Helsinki is a beautiful city in winter, even there is no snow on the ground, and  I travel here by public transportation system quite often. So this system leaves time to think or listen some music or read the news. In my workplace, I will meet a different kind of people, and I sometimes think how easy is to "read the other people body language" as some psychiatrists say. If your boss doesn't like you, it will shine thru their behavior. They will play so-called excessive restless person, but then they want to show everybody, that you will be kicked off straight after three mistakes.


And because your boss doesn't like you, the persons in the work will get tuned that they must find only the mistakes of you work. Those bosses will sometimes make the competitions between persons, who will begin in the working place. There will be taken, two persons in the job and the best will get the job. So this guarantees that there will be no friends in that house. The competitions are necessary, because this is the way, how those persons can order to do almost everything in those places because the competition guarantees that the beginners will not make complaints in those places.


The disappointments and stress are visible to some people way to act, and in sometimes the things what those people have made are very visible in their shape, and this is the thing that should be trained in some schools, because if some things did not happen that is very visible in some people faces. Once during my studies, I worked in the customer service duties, and then there was the fight between me and one customer. That person asked my name and I told that to this person, then I continued my work.


After that one of my workmates came to ask me if I have done some routines and this person made that with very low noise. At the end of the working day, I noticed that somebody didn't answer me when I was doing my duties. That was the thing, what uncovered me after my work in that place ended after the summer. This customer has made the phone calls to my superiority and wanted the kicks off to me. This work in customer service teched me many things, and one was actually that some people say that they will know some big boss, but if they really know this person, their friend will come to the place right away.


The question of the body language is that if somebody has the superiority position for all the day, and this person must not hear any critics, will that seen in every other action what that person does. If we are talking about some societies, where most of the persons have limited ability to learn some things, I will sometimes face the thing, where another person asks to speak English even if every person in the room speaks Finnish. Those people will get the good boost for their self-esteem if they can speak the way that everybody on the table doesn't understand the discussion. This is one way to show that some person is "better" than other. And of course, in those places, the discussions about the personal future will sometimes make without this person, because that way is simpler and easier to the crew. And in those discussions will always show that this person is under the crew.

Why is body language so vital part of communication between people?

Kimmo Huosionmaa

Why is body language so vital part of communication between people? That is a key element when we are investigating human intelligence. The human intelligence is the most fascinated and awesome thing of human being, and that thing makes us as human. But the intelligence of human organism makes human species the most dangerous animal on the planet. There are a people and situations where is extremely important to notice if some people are intelligent. One example is when somebody gets conviction about some crimes, and of course, there is the text in the law, that if the person's intelligent level is very low, he or she will get the soft penalty, because that person didn't understand what kind of crime he or she made. And that's the reason when some criminals play stupid in the courtroom.

About 80 percent of human communication is nonverbal. Even if the person is good to play something very liberal and funny things they might have the irreverent attitude for other person's way of life. That attitude will shine all around that person. The mark that this kind of person is sitting opposite you on the table, is that person is very calm.

They must show their adulthood with over calm attitude to another person. The behavior is for hiring the attitude that this target, and feeling that the attitude of being that this person might think that another one is less valuable than the speaker is. When some people have that attitude they must prove themselves, that other people are some kind of children and they start to play some kind of big brother or big sister. Those people have usually some training, what they think as very difficult. And of course, that makes them feel very strong against other persons.


Those people normally work with people who don't have any education, so they think that if some people have not been in school they are stupid, and that is not true. The education doesn’t make any person more intelligent than other, and this is the very important thing to know. If some person has an attitude that uneducated people are not intelligent, that might cause very great risk in some situations. The place where that attitude makes risks is the prison system. If prison guards don't realize that the person who sits behind doors might be clever, that situation might make the very bad risk to the public security. And if some people speak with slang, that doesn’t mean that this person might not have doctoral education, and some doctors like police investigators and judges don't always mention that they have doctoral grade education from some university.


 When we are talking about body language and nonverbal communication there is very easy to notice if somebody hides something. Those people will be some kind of closed and hostile persons, and if they have done something bad like setup another person to guilty for something what he or she probably would not do, they meet the bad disappointment, if that person will not kick off or put under arrest immediately. The disappointment will see all things, what that person does.


That person will become some kind of hostile, and that person will show the disappointment by being aggressive and some kind of closed or reserved. That disappointment of masterplan falling will shine all around that person. And if the person doesn’t usually get the wrong answers, what denies that person something, the result of that disappointment is very easy to detect. And this is the thing what everybody must notice if somebody has tried to set up some other person guilty of something.